Sweet Dreams are Made of This


Molecular Thoughts What do the children see?

       A shaggy blonde boy with dirty fingernails and huge bright blue eyes smiling as he is making a hotdog.  His parents are yelling in the background over misbehaviour by another child.  He deflects this screaming and runs out to join his friends who are waiting outside to play.  Children begin to develop road maps in the brain.  Patterns they embed to help them feel safe in times of trauma.  These safe places become a place to hide. Children begin to stop questioning and growing because they run to their safe place which offers no way for them to express their own views or ask questions.  The children finally separate.  They learn no one is in control.  The parent’s Clip Art Illustration of a Little Boy Holding a Bowl of Soupauthority and credibility are now  threatened. 

  What do the children see?

      In school we teach children answers to questions with questions.  We are taught to criticize books and research.  Criticism becomes the center of learning in their educational world.  They become very skilled at it.  Therefore as a teen we criticize everything and criticism becomes a way of finding answers and questioning beliefs.  But on this thin line is also cynicism.  It draws conclusions but it trashes beliefs.  We must keep them questioning and thinking.  Performance is empowering  and they must be encouraged to express their own views so their fears are  numerous but warranted.

What do the children see?

In Nick Pollard’s book, “Why do they do That”, he talks about the parallels of drugs and pain.  We all reach for the Tylenol or heroin in some cases,  but when it wears off the pain is greater.  Many will try other ways that don’t work.  The pain remains and grows.  It is much like emotional pain that cannot be taken away by itself.  It can be scary and lead to a downward spiral.  We must teach our children that all pain cannot be taken away.  They must live through it to grow, thrive and transform.

What do I want my children to see?

A love so deep that even in silence they can still hear my voice.  I would love to hear your reaction or responses.  Please let me know what you think.

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10 thoughts on “Sweet Dreams are Made of This

  1. Hey Jen! I really liked this because it’s true that children are often stifled then we wonder why they think/act the way they do. Like you mentioned, when they are unable to express themselves it can be hard to find their way in a confusing and opposing world. I read something recently about the saying “God never gives us more than we can handle.” This article mentioned that actually he does, but there are reasons behind that. I’d be curious of your thoughts on this subject, especially in light of what you are handling.
    Love you all and keep the good stuff coming!

    • I think God will give you more than you can handle when he is tryig to redefine you. There may be people around you that need to see how you handle certain situations and how God brings you through them so that he may work in their hearts. 🙂
      Love you

  2. When y’all were growing up, I often wished I could better understand what ya’ll were really feeling and make it better. It is so hard when the love you feel is so strong and you feel helpless to use it to an advantage….I do know that God guided me (and y’all) all the way and he still does!

  3. Your statement, “A love so deep that even in silence they can still hear my voice” is phenomenal in how you captured the essence of a mother’s love for her children, in language. This has been a great, insightful post!

  4. Incredible! This blog looks exactly like my old one! It’s on a completely different subject but it has pretty much the same layout and design. Outstanding choice of colors!

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